The big punch - Redux

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I understand how you are feeling MyK as I went through the same scenario back in March when my W was interviewing and got her job. Don't let the fear and the wondering paralyze you from taking care of you.

I didn't get over the fear until recently (within the last 2 weeks TBH) and it has made a world of difference. I'll tell you what helped me.....when my W unleashed so much venom on Memorial Day that I felt was unwarranted. It told me where her heart was and my fear of pushing her further away was just that.....fear. The reality is that I had already pushed her far enough. I've apologized enough, have made changes within myself and owned my part of the demise. I'm ready to move forward and to quit living in the past. I feel that we are to the point that she has to deal with her part and it isn't gonna help if I continue being her spare tire.

The words I heard from her and getting over the fear motivated me to do what I always felt was right. Hire a L to fight for my kids. I didn't do it from the beginning because I didn't want to make things ugly and push my W further away. You know what? Those are the choices that that our WAWs have given us and it is our responsibility to protect our kid(s).

MyK, your thread has helped me out a great deal and I want to do what I can to return the favor. Hope this post helps.

So continue GAL, taking care of yourself, keeping the road home paved and smooth and be confident in yourself. The rest will be up to your W.