InAPickle and jbnati have said it all and said it well. It sure seems like your W is on a constant rollercoaster; if she doesn't know what she wants from one minute to the next, don't think you will be able to know.
Our W's are searching for..something. I think we need to be at our very best for ourselves and our W's, regardless of what they say or do. Try to not take those harsh comments to heart; I know that is easier said than done, but I think they are spoken out of confusion and frustration, not truth.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS