Hello Denver, you don't know me from these boards. I'm like a lot of newcomers, in that, I've been reading here (early on a month ago, sometimes reading all night)..
haven't posted about my own deal yet; so I don't know that this will even post before this thread locks. Anyhow, I feel compelled to offer my own two cents worth if you don't mind.
I needed to forgive someone once that I found the desire to, and even inwardly proclaimed my forgiveness for her (and him).. but wherever the rubber hit the road, I found myself wholly without the ability to forgive..
Someone said something to the effect, that a powerful dynamic re: forgiveness is simply the willingness to allow that forgiveness to come to her, for her, from the same higher source from which I seek forgiveness for myself.
I also had to assimilate the fact, that, I did not have clean hands in the whole affair, (affair).. see what I did there ;- )
Anyhow, the decompression was powerful. Free unmerited favor, (sometimes unmerited in an abject, almost paradoxical sense)..
Forgiveness isn't something 'earned'. It's like real love; comes free of charge, dismisses any past indictments. Unless forgiveness (more apt, the willingness to forgive) is offered by the better loving man, on an unmerited basis; it's nothing much more than immature equivocating..
And again, this kind of forgiveness (the real deal, so to speak,) isn't a built in ability to our human condition. It comes from higher up.
But, it is available to whosoever is willing to receive it..
Peace I wish you the peace that transcends all understanding..(even that of our own situations)
I'm 57, she's 56. I run her off with my own inimitable drunken nonsense.. 22yr M (T 27 yrs.) 4 grown sons, lots of fine grandkids.. I'm in Colorado, she's at the youngest sons in N Carolina, ~ a month now. But I'm good, (better than I have any right to be,)
