AC, I am trying to look at some of the positives. It sounds like she has already softened her position on the D. Also, she is staying in the house until January, which should give you time to DB, GAL, etc. I think DB'ing your tail off is all you can do right now. Give her some space.
Navigating the waters of depression is very tricky, as I'm sure you well know. She is going to have to or someone other than you is going to have to convince her to get some help. It's hard telling whether this is clinical depression, situational depression, or a combination of the two.
