I don't know that there is some threshhold one crosses to become a WAW, but I suspect your real question is if she has reached the point of no return. That would require us to know your wife very well, because she's the only one who really knows. Based on her actions, I'd say she has one foot out the door, but she's not completely gone. Don't be surprised if she does move forward with D or S, but don't stop working on it either. Good luck.
