Well, I don't mean to sound defensive. I'm more concerned with being accurate, but I realize that there is just so much that has gone on over the years and, really, there's no point in rehashing it all.
We're not getting into fights. I'm not sure where you get that from. We get along fine, but there is no relationship anymore.
For several years I read the books, tried everything. The only thing that really worked for me was GAL because, well, it really was and has been for me. I am sad the marriage is over but I'm not a wreck over it because I do have a life and I do have a clear conscience because I know how much I put into this marriage. However, I'm simply no longer going to put any serious effort into a relationship with someone who has constantly lied, manipulated, and used and not ever really changed much. I made this clear to her years ago when we got into MC. Again, while I followed through, she did not.
Don't get me wrong, I appreciate what you've said, and I'm certainly not "above" being challenged, but I guess I'm a little confused as to why you're doing it.
I didn't come here asking for help in saving the marriage. I came here to begin dealing with the reality of our divorce, and if I'm coming across as defensive it may also be because part of my motivation for being back here is to bear witness to the fact that GAL'ing works and once you do it you're much more prepared to deal with everything that happens from a position of personal strength. However, it seems to me that you have jumped on a comment or two about my attitude you don't like, and have tried to turn this into something it's not.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
