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Update. The confusing rollercoaster continues, and I could use some insight.

W is totally focussed on her game plan of leaving me and moving out of state to start a new life without me. She will stay in our house until January, then take a one year leave of absence from work. She does not want to D, but wants a legal separation to continue her insurance. I told her I would help her through the transition 3 weeks ago, so the leave of absence and separation are not a surprise. I suggested this plan in the first place, to give her at least some stability as she works through issues. Maybe I was wrong.

W spent the last 3 weeks very depressed about her situation, esp. her work situation. She is very unhappy at work, which she used to love, and cannot see through the fog that work will get better again through time. She is convinced she has to cut all ties and leave.

She wants to do things together, wants to see my family, wants to go to events, dinners, etc. I don't know if she is doing this out of guilt, or loniless, or because she still cares for me and us. I don't know how I am going to figure that out.

I know I have to GAL and think about making myself better as I move forward. I know that I have to let her take her own path. I don't know if I should be the nice guy and help her through this mess, or if I should play hardball so that she can see what reality looks like down the road.

She is so depressed. I may be getting the blame, but I am not the entire reason. I desperately want this cloud to clear from over her head. Wish I knew how to do it.