Thank you Shannon for your advice. I hate to hijack your thread but I wanted to let you know that I think that is a great idea (avoiding temperature checks) and after today, I can't handle much more communication from him - let alone me instigating any temperature checks. (Now psychologically, all I think about is his temperature, I have to learn to think about me instead.) But I'm just not up for much more.
Yes, I wish someday he would see that the grass isn't greener with OW and that I gave him all I had. But you know what they say: sometimes the grass in greener because there is more bullsh** over there.
Me: 35 Him: 43 Together: 19 1/2 years 1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011 2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011 He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011 He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011