Your words hit me so hard, that I have to GO BACK and really remember what you are feeling right now.
I'm not going to "fancy" quote you. I'll hit you in email (Warning )
One thing I want to say, is once you are completely healed...you won't EVER judge the next relationship you have as a relationship you had with her. You won't. You have the tools, you have the insight, you have the strength.
However, you have GOT to let go and heal. Easier said than done, but you CAN'T fix her or control HER. You have to accept that she is addicted to OM and you have to accept the fact that there IS SOMEONE who wants to be with 2step that won't sacrifice their integrity.
Glass half full or glass half empty. It's all about your viewpoint and perspective. If 2step is happy, then others will feed off that. Heal! You are not alone. Then worry about what you do next.
You are divorced, she's moved on; F*ck the past. Let go.
I know this isn't what you WANT to hear...nor is it the END. Man, the sooner you are confident in this, IF she faces her reality and you face what makes you happy. She might comeback. You don't know. Say whatever you want, but you don't know the future. If it's meant to be, it will be, if it isn't then something better will come along.
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