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SHE IS WRONG! SHES WRONG TODAY AND TOMORROW. SHE WILL ALWAYS BE WRONG FOR CHEATING.

She cheated!

Bottom line!!!

There is NO justification!!!

NO cause!!!

NO excuse!!!

NO reason!!!

BUT THEY ARE M!!!!!

She CHOOSE to have an A!!!

IT'S WRONG!!! BOTTOM LINE!!!


SBH, all I see here is yelling and anger.

To me the focus is completely backwards.

Standing on a soap box, pointing a finger down on the crowd. Wrong, wrong wrong!!!

Denver's W, my W, many others W's and H's have made some very poor decisions.

We do NOT agree with their decisions. We do not believe them to be right.

But, we also learn to forgive. We learn that, as you said, it takes two. We own our part.

This does not mean we approve of what they have done. Forgiveness does not = approval.

I guess I can only come up with one thing as I write his, what does the anger and finger pointing accomplish?

Does it make them more wrong? Does it make us more right? Does it help us heal? Does it help us forgive? Does it help us move forward?

All I see is it help us to stay stuck.

I would never fault anyone for having a boundary in which if their S cheats, under any circumstances, they are done.

I also applaud people who can forgive in their darkest hour.

Bottom Line?

It just isn't that simple.

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.