I don't think you have to move to the divorce as your boundary, you have other things you can leverage....time, money....
I've read a book that calls it 'the loving takeaway'. Things are going smoothly, she's interested....you slowly remove some ofthose rewards. LESSEN your inputs. She will have to do some ofthe driving or food, etc. OR if she is giving something you want, you continue some or all of the inputs you are giving.
You won't get the whole ball of wax in 30 days most likely. All or nothing is not usually the way it works well. You have to train her.
She's not a pet, but like a pet...you start training with small things. You do the same with children. You (should do the same with dating)...slowly grow the relationship. Sllow inputs, slow rewards. You hae to work backwards, start asking for more inputs (not the whole thing). If now, remove small inputs from your end
