((((Trish)))))

I'm sitting here with my coffee, so I'm not going anywhere at the moment. I do need to get dressed and out shopping for a locking DVD cabinet, because D6 is either breaking them (by stepping on them) or trying to dust them with furniture polish.

Gosh, I don't know what to say and where to begin? I read your post a few times to get my thoughts collected.

I hope you don't want to hit me for this, but could this be what you needed to get moving on the goals you have said you are going to work on? Um, without Dr. K?

Then Acorn's reply to you about expectations sort of came back full force. I know you've been setting a pattern with him to spend time, but I think it's been more spontaneous, rather than scheduled. And we both know what will happen when you guys move back in together. He's going to need some space and so are you.

Take a deep breath. Send shark lady over to see me Maybe I'll feed on another shark instead of fish this week (Hallo, Bruce).

My intuition is telling me (by re-reading your posts) that Dr. K. is feeling very overwhelmed by Thursday. Hey, I know you are too and your way of dealing with things is more productive and healthy to your relationships with your family.

So here's the nutshell. Go ahead and stay a little mad under your surface (I think this might serve you well--so you can feel free to schedule things for yourself). But when Dr. K. calls, DON'T PUSH THE CRAZYMAKER BUTTON! Act as if this weekend has been like any other...

And see if sort of catching him off guard doesn't bring him back a little closer to you.

I really and truly think it's time for you to get hopping on your personal goals, Trish. Things have worked fine so far, but in order for you to be happy without him, this is going to have to happen sometime.

And don't be surprised if he's just a little turned on by that notion.

Summary: 1) Resolve to working on your list of goals; 2) When Dr. K. calls, ACT AS if you've been fine with his lack of communication.

Advice from a crazymaker to someone who loves one.

Big hugs.

Betsey

"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Albert Einstein