As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Country, that is an excellent post ^^^. Thanks for sharing.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Had a couple meetings with W this week to exchange D.
I was friendly and upbeat for the most part, but also less engaged than I have been in the past. No questions of her, "just the facts ma'am" as they say.
There have been no texts either way until tonight.
She texts me "D went peepee on the potty!"
With a pic of her training toilet.
It's been over an hour, I haven't responded.
This week has been really good for me, feeling a big rebound in myself.
I do need to confirm the time we are meeting tomorrow for D, then I am on my way to the mountains for a nice weekend.
Peace out!
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Have a great weekend with your D. Remember, no pics to the W.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
It may have been the quickest reply in the history of texting. I instantly got a "Sounds good!" reply from W.
Her use of !!! in her texts is facinating...
See what happens when YOU pull away? You want her to start chasing you.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
See what happens when YOU pull away? You want her to start chasing you.
I do.
It feels good to get back to me.
Had a GREAT weekend camping with D. She did great and had a ball. I caught myself many times with this big stupid grin on my face as I watched her play.
When I picked D up from W on Friday we had a short exchange. She asked more questions about what we were doing. I was honest but didn't add more than I needed to. I was already packed up and we were heading straight up. The dog was in the back of the truck with her "Doggles" on and I was excited with D asking her if she was ready to go camping. W was heading into work, and I could just tell the look on her face that she knew she was really missing out on something. I know we should not take any joy from seeing our S's unhappy, but in all honesty we do want them to realize what they are giving up, right?
At the end she said "If you have service send pics, I won't see her for 3 days."
I was putting D in her car seat when she said it and muttered "OK" without looking back up.
Got a text from W first night we were gone "Hope you guys are having fun!"
Nothing on Sat night.
And then last night when she figured we were back home "Hope you guys had a nice time camping" (No !! this time )
I did not respond to either.
W has D the next two nights, then I have her Wed/Thurs night. We won't need to talk to each other until later this week/the weekend to arrange me picking D up from her this weekend for Fathers Day.
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I went through all of the pictures from our trip this weekend. Got some really good ones of D.
All of a sudden got hit hard with a pit in my stomach. I posted some to FB and sent some to my parents, but W and I still see that little girl different than anyone else. It is hard not to share them with her.
I can't believe we are getting close to 6 months separated already. D has changed so much since she left.
One one side this has helped me really focus on D. We have created some great memories over the last several months. On the other hand, I can't help but think about the person missing from all of them.
I just get back to the same question, how is this worth it to her?
She has missed so much already. Shoot I have as well. We are part time parents now. How does a mother chose to give up so much of her D's life?
Why am I so down tonight???!!!!????
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
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