Wow-you made me laugh. He DID compare me to his cool Australian mother when we first started dating-and she did not like me! Thanks to you for your love and support. I think it is one of the reasons that I shopped in secret-low self esteem and knowing that there were certain things that he felt were unnecessary (nails, haircuts, etc). Now that I am on a budget I know that some of the stuff could have been cut (and will need to be) but the fact that I didn't feel comfortable enough with him to be open about it speaks volumes.
I actually went to my neighbor tonight (an attorney) to look through initial paperwork. It made me so sad. She kept shaking her head and saying he was an idiot....that he had things so good. I still have to fill out the rest of the paperwork but I am hoping to finish it this weekend and to sit and pray about it. How much time is enough?
AA35, you are an amazing woman yourself and you make me feel like superwoman-thanks again for your love and support. Now what can we do for you? I think you need some help yourself and whatever advice I can give you (and this board) we will be happy to provide. Your partner will get his own reality check-the grass is not greener and you just need to focus on you and not keep looking back. If I could give you an advice-AVOID THE TEMPERATURE CHECKS. Everytime H and I made some progress or could talk calmly, I imagined that we were making baby steps toward reconciliation. And then-slam-next day it was like it never happened or, as others can attest to on this page, H was slightly mean pushing buttons to test the waters so to speak to validate his decision to walk.
BTW-his mother completely supports his departure of this family. Hard to fathom. Thank goodness for the love and support of this family!!!!
Hang in there girlie-post to me anytime you need something!
