there are some great pieces around here about forgiving
Forgivenes is NOT about them. It's about us, and freeing our selves of the pain and anger we feel b/c it hurts US. It can consume us...it usually does.
Some people hold onto their anger b/c they don't think the person they feel anger for, deserves forgiveness.
That's like lighting yourself on fire, to get smoke in their eyes.
Forgiveness is our way out of hell. It means letting go, (and they do not even have to know we've done it.)
It's not about them....I cannot stress this enough.
Your honesty about never forgiving (you won't forgive your sister or other members of your own family either...)
is revealing.
It's actually probably a lot of weight on you that you don't realize. I am NOT saying you must invite them into your life if you think they are dangerous...again, they don't even have to know.
Not forgiving, does take energy.
That energy could be better spent, helping you create a better life for you and your children. They are watching you, and you are modelling for them what a strong man with dignity does, when he's dealt a serious body blow.
What do they see?
how about you...
Get up, dust yourself off, and go, from this day forward.
No looking over your shoulder at the shore, b/c you have to swim to the other side...and it IS better.
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