None taken. I realize that we each have different experiences and I try to tell people to search for alternate answers as my experience is limited.
As you know, I have found unconditional love to move mountains (in raising two children and in dealing with an angry wife), but as a Nice Guy who was stomped on by my wife, I also (once I reached my limits) both provided unconditional love, but took care of myself and made specific goals as to how I was going to achieve the kind of happiness & love that I deserved. I also lucked out with a super skilled sex therapist who punched all of my wife's buttons and got us back on track.
You comments about the gift of love are right on track. I was trying to point out that some men (especially Nice Guys) don't feel it is sex unless their wife climaxes, or (at least until I better understood what was discussed in NMMNG) I was that way. Nice Guys really are all about serving their spouse and women in general.
25, I really do think that you husband is one lucky guy and I do hope that you find the physical passion and love that you deserve. As an older guy who works with a lot of older guys and reads quite a bit, I am amazed at the huge number of men who have some form of ED and who refuse to recognize it and what lengths they go to to convince themselves that it is something else. Since your h is a doctor I am sure that isn't his problem.
Another thing that constantly amazes me is the percentage of American's that are seriously sleep deprived and how that kills many peoples sex life as well. I know when I don't get enough sleep for a couple weeks in a row, my libido suffers.
I also find it hard to understand men who would prefer a hot home cooked dinner to a "roll in the hay," but I sure do know some and have heard their stories. But having read 5LL I intellectually understand it, even if I can't picture it in my mind.
Again, 25, I think you are giving GB a lot of great advice, especially from a woman's perspective, which is something that he does need and many of the rest of us can't provide.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
