The relabeling of behavior that you are seeing as avoidant, etc is a really good idea too. (Shesh, our Hs really do share some traits.) I try to remember that I love my H's gentleness, that he very seldom picks a fight, he's yelled at me maybe twice in 20 years (as a fellow non yeller, I appreciate that), when the stars are alined just right, I can't imagine how anyone could be sweeter...
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
