Normally Harrier I would agree that I shouldn't have brought up OM... especially since I listed not doing so TWICE as a goal.
However, this conversation HAD to happen. Things changed from the time that I set that goal and this convo. I had to clearly state and set this boundary with W... that would have been impossible without bringing up OM.
I just want to clarify. I wasn't talking about the convos this week. I was talking about your first set of goals on the 90s days. When OM was brought up in casual conversation.
My point, and you know it, is that the only way to show her you won't bring up OM is to not bring up OM in any context.
It's tricky here because she is scared that you might throw OM in her face. But to show her you wont do it in a fight is to unfortunately -- have a fight. Which no one wants. This requires a lot faith and trust on her part. What she can't give you now.
P.S. I will be in your fair city in a few weeks. I'm finally getting sworn in to be a CO-licensed attorney.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
