AWesome post TG. Denver , I think you get this but please pay close attention to this post.
Not to highjack and I know Denver wouldnt mind, but that is exactly what I asked my W to do when I found out about her affair with the low life. And thats what she told me she was going to do way back in Feb of 2010, find out who she was and then when I found out about OM, i asked her to not be with eithr of us for awhile till she found out who she was. My wife Denver was not strong enough to do so and that is why I believe your sitch is soo oooooo much better.
When I mentioned to you that another few romps in the hay mean nothing, I didnt mean that it was ok. I just meant that since she has done it before, and she is in junkie mode so to speak, trying to get him out of her system, I dont think you should punish her for having a slip. The end result is she get it out of her system. Now if she commits to the R and does it again, To me, that is a deal breaker. Thats all I meant. Like I said before , try and imagine you are meeting her for the first time and you KNow she had relations before.
I cant tell you how hard it has been for me to see Om's truck in my W's driveway and know that she was having sex with this deuche bag over and over again. I honestly dont know If I could continue but I would have to convince myself that it was something different in order for me to accept it and forgive her.
Perhaps its a little mind game but the stakes are sooooo high. Its bigger than just us, ITs the whole family and its the rest of our lives.
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