I just had the opposite issue for my DS14's graduation ceremony. H said he had to work, meetings back to back, real busy, blah, blah blah. I know DS would have been devastated if h was a no-show, in spite of his anger towards him. (The anger is coming from the kids' perceived rejection by his dad btw)
Anyway, I told H to consider my 5 year rule.... Will any of the people involved in his meetings remember in 5 years, that he had to reschedule b/c of his son's graduation? (probably not) Will son remember that his dad wasn't there in 5 years? Definitely!!!
These milestone events are important pieces in the kids' histories. How will she remember it? Mom wasn't there b/c I was upset w/her and I gave the ticket to some woman my dad was involved with at the time. ???
I have personal feelings here too. My parents were recently divorced before my HS graduation. Mom gave Dad's ticket to her BF. Dad went anyway and watched from beyond the fence. I looked for him. I saw him. HE WAS THERE. I felt loved, in spite of all the anger and confusion that was swirling around then.
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