and no offense but I get a feeling, intuitively, that most of what you are wondering is how
you can get her to change her behavior...it IS controlling and again, I could be wrong
but my feeling from your posts is there's a lot of you trying to teach her a lesson or "show her the consequences of her behavior"
and some definite punishment going on. Frankly I don't care why she wants you to have the kids, TAKE THEM!!
Stop asking if you "can say no" b/c you don't think her reason is good enough...the sooner she finds out the grass isnt greener where you don't water it,
the sooner you give her the chance to miss her kids...the better.
Otherwise she holds YOU responsible for how trapped she feels....
IF all she gets out of her free time is partying ways, so be it. You'll have your kids and she'll self destruct without them around
PER MY DB COACH "It's not our job to show our spouses the consequences of their behavior and it's never a spouses job to punish the other one.
Life teaches them lessons and shows them consequence."
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
