First, it's a very personal matter and no one can tell you what to do. If you can handle it, meaning not feel horrible later, that's key.
I don't know men who go back to women for the great sex they NEVER had.
For my h and I, sex was a strength in our m, and it helped him feel very connected. His LL is physical affection.
I wanted to contrast life here, with what he had in the tundra. So the home was "warm and loving" and sunny, inside and out here.
It's personal and if you can't, you can't.
But if you can, don't feel bad or let someone tell you that you're being used.
The cow analogy is for singles...if ML was a strength in your m, and it's good between you in bed, you are giving him something to miss when he's gone.
Sometimes I think we have to go with what feels natural in the moment & trust. Just my .02. BTW It was my DB coach who said, "there's no one right answer to this".
YOU decide.
I definitely agree that we need to go with what feels natural in the moment and trust... and that there is 'no one right answer to this'
hmmmm... the cow analogy just applying to singles? I don't know about that.
I think sometime we dumb men ... well, we sometimes take for granted that physical piece... because it isn't as an emotional thing for us as it is for women (generally speaking of course). So when we're in the M ... even when the sex is good ... we are susceptible to taking it for granted ... and letting our minds wonder.
I speak from my own experience and multiple, multiple conversations with my close buddies.
I guess what I am saying to TG007 is not to use sex as a carrot for her H's return... I think that he already wants to return anyway ... but maybe just remind him that it is something that he will miss if the M does not reconcile.
I don't see how that happens if he is out of the house YET still gets that physical need met.
Again TG007, that is just my 2 cents... I fully respect and value 25's opinion.... I definitely do.
And as she said, you need to do what you think is best.
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
... well, we sometimes take for granted that physical piece... because it isn't as an emotional thing for us as it is for women (generally speaking of course). So when we're in the M ... even when the sex is good ... we are susceptible to taking it for granted ... and letting our minds wonder. 
