I realize you don't know me but I just wanted to agree with timetotry...I've been reading over your thread and you remind me of when this started happening to me a few years ago. You seem to be making good progress with your GALing and stuff, but then that need to make some points to her rationally ("My thinking is that I cannot validate anything...") crops up. Sounds exactly what I used to write back in 06
What the good folks here pointed out to me back then was, a) she doesn't want to hear it and it will only piss her off, it's pressure, and b) she's not really making strong rational choices right now, so trying to deal with her on that level won't get through anyway.
It sounds like you're making awesome progress on your detachment. I'd encourage you to do that and let it work its 'magic', so to speak, on you.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
