....Since I know that pity sex and duty sex just make things worse I feel like for now I am stuck with this. What do you guys think?
This is something that I have mixed feelings about.
On the one hand, I want a "fully engaged sex partner." On the otherhand, my sex drive is much higher than my wife's. Through communication between us, I have learned that sometimes she isn't particularly interested in sex, but really likes to hold me and feel close to me while I climax. I have learned that accepting her "gift" of sexual love is a positive and if I say no, I am hurting her feelings and rejecting her. So some "duty sex" may actually be a gift of love offered by your wife....an attempt to make love between the two of you.
Has your wife read the 5 LL and have you talked to her about how you are trying to make her feel loved and what she can do to make you feel loved?
I read an interesting story about a book today that I thought I would post here as I think it might be both a story and book that GB may want to investigate. It is "not my thing" but then again, I am an older dude who has values from a different era.
