[25yearsmlc]

LITB,

you sound pretty healthy. I love the way you said you are now "awake" to your life and kids

and that you had been asleep before...


Great news. Maybe it's good to thank your w for that. (Seriously)


What do your kids want to do as far as where to live?



If they're cool with staying in place, as I suspect, all the better. I'd think the judge will ask them and they'd be getting the most stability that way.


How are their R's with w? I'm sure you will encourage them to stay as close as they can, given the givens. The more loved they feel by their parents, the better. They are already dealing with an absentee mother, who may seem to have chosen her mother over her children. Ouch...

I assume you are reassuring them this is not the case (even if it partly is...) their feeling of being loved really is the priority, not you being "accurate"...make sense? I never understand the blame game when it comes to the kids. As if they don't already feel crappy...down deep, they do hurt.


Anyhow, Keep on keeping on, and good luck