[LITB]

LITB,

You are under no obligation -- legal, moral or otherwise -- to discuss your legal plans with your wife.

There's a reason they put that little "v" in-between the names of the parties. Ours is, by its very design, an adversarial system.

Be civil, courteous -- even kind -- but don't discuss your legal or financial details with your wife ahead of time. I'm certain your atty will tell you the same thing.

Starsky

Starsky...how do we get you off moderation? You have nearly 1000 posts. Who did you make mad? I kid.

I haven't told the W anything. My L told me that this is a decision that only I can make. I'm going to hang tight to see how this next week plays out with everything else going on. There is no rush to do anything.

One good thing that comes out of the new direction that we are going is the both my W and I must take a couple of courses. One is how to parent our kids as divorced parents. My W hasn't or didn't plan on doing anything to research the impact of her decison. Will it resonate for her? Who knows? It is at least something she will be required to do. I'm good with that.