My question to you do you know what you need to change based off what she has said? Are you willing to keep improving yourself through this without expectation that she's going to come back? In other words, do you envision who and how you will live through this?
I'm still curious as to what was said in the counseling sessions. On top of that, the enabling of her closest support group family/friends/coworkers, is not helping, but you have to separate yourself from that, because you have no control over it.
That list up above. Follow it. Better yourself and validate what she feels. Obviously everything is in motion and is unstoppable at the moment. You could jump in front of a moving train and try to slow it down, but you will get hurt in the process.
Words will just appear as you are trying to change her mind or control her([censored] but she's on a mission); action will speak 10 fold. Step away and follow the list up above. Read DR again. Just try to focus on you and let her do what she thinks is right for her. Give her what she's asking for, while you focus on bettering you.
Journal and let anything that comes to mind come out HERE, don't say it to her. This is tough and you will need all the support you can get.
