Since this whole thing happened in August I don't think I have had a "normal" feeling day or a "normal" weekend.....I think I've forgottten what that is.
This weekend we had horrendous rain in our region and the flood warning were serious this time...I say "this time" because for the most part folks around here ignore these warnings unless they are out on the rivers.....
But true enough there have been a lot of roads flooded out and now they are calling for snow 6-9 inches in the next few days.
D21 went to the same resort for the weekend as Dr. K and I did on New Years....which is on a river in W.VA.
Dr.K kept calling her to tell her about the warnings and then calling here to see if she made it home okay......actually he called and was peeved she hadn't called him back......and mad that she seems to put her boyfriends schedule first! (Duh, what does her mom do for Dad??) and how she always goes along with him on these adventures (also just like her mother)... How she's gone for three days with no calling home...(she is 21, a brainiack and very capable and her boyfriend is very trust worthy)...besides she doesn't check in when she's up at school now does she!!
Both sons were at home so no problem there...
I think I DID hit on something with the "be a bit more mysterious" idea from the other night.
I feel that Dr. K just takes me for granted a little too much... and it's so out of balance.....
Example: I won't know what he's doing for two days...no phone calls or e-mails...When he calls me I have to be carefull not to ask too much or be upset that I haven't heard form him because....he always tells me what he does and I always get told...but AFTER he does it.....so if I asked he'd just dismiss it or be irritated that I ask or just hang up! I'm suppose to wait until he offers it up.
But when he called the other day(at 2 in the afternoon)and said he'd call later? and then didn't call back until 9 pm....what am I suppose to do??!!....wait around to see if he might call at 5 and wants to do something??????
NO!
I am not going to wait by the phone! This is just not in my nature and frankly it pisses me off.....
So I just didn't answer the phone until 10 pm meanwhile he left three messages and when I answered the phone he asked ME...where were you???!!!!!
I guess I would have liked to have said: "Since you kept me waiting so long before calling back and we had no firm plans, because you didn't want to make any, I just didn't want to wait around for your call."
But it would sound small and petty and would not get me to a goal...
Is this is part of DBing???
But, it seems like it's always been this way....
I'm not making any appointments with the C I had been seeing...
I think it's best...she just isn't pro marriage..or least pro MY marriage and she says things like it's really all HIS problem and I should just tell him how I feel..so I'm fine with not continuing with her.
AND I found out who "DR. R" is (from the note and tickets shoved under the door last week)....SHE is a PHd from the building who Dr. K says is engaged to another Phd and they are away in Hawaii for two weeks...live in another unit....He mentioned "They" were interested in buying the unit he/we owns??? for office space.
I guess he just didn't want to have to explain who she was at the time the note came....he knows I would have been suspicious.
