my heart is breaking

[25yearsmlc]

Don't worry about the ML unless you feel like crap about it later. It's very very personal.


I do think that no man ever came home for the great sex he NEVER had...for us, I know that h felt most connected in that manner. It's his love language so, no regrets here.



Um, did you read the laura munson article, "Those Aren't Fighting Words"? It's about MLC and one woman's approach to it. I think I suggested it before but you kind of ignored it.


I'm not giving you a 2 x 4 but I think you are spinning too much...too much stinking thinking going on....NOT helping your cause or your health.


You need to answer the questions posed to you. For you mostly....and for us to help you better. Instead you repeat yourself a lot.



I know, I did it too. Told anyone I met what my h was doing and asked total strangers why he would do this...

And my sister got me to stop being destructive and start being constructive...



Did you see a lawyer or not? How'd you feel after? Less afraid?




Also don't catastrophize every event so that it means this or that and try to anticipate what each turn of events might mean or which way HE will go or what HE will feel or what HE might SAY or THINK... If his mom goes to a nursing home, he'll have more time to reflect on his choices without the pressure he feels now.

If he sells the house, there's more money for YOU to not feel as if you'll be poor.

Also LESS financial pressure and feelings of failure for him...


Don't make everything negative or it will be...work on the PMA asap.


time to focus on you and ONLY YOU....what are your 180s?

Please don't ignore that question.


Are you different around your h at all? At least the seducing was a 180!


Yes you will get over the shock. You will learn to deal with this. When?



when you decide to.



IF your life were a novel, how would you like your next chapter to go?


More important, who is writing your novel? Be the author of your life....