WAW, and a bisexual open marriage part 3

[Young at Heart]

GB;

I applaud you for being able to communication like that with your wife and allowing the conversation to be delayed, but coming back to it.

Interesting that fear and insecurity are big issues for her and part of what might be driving her.

I said it before, so I might as well say it again....

.....First, at some point you need to tell her that the two of you need to go in for some joint marriage counseling (prefferably with a liberal minded sex therapist since bisexuality on your W's part and OM are going to be discussion topics). The two of you would be better off it the counseling were to happen sooner than later.

.....Fourth and final comment is you are probably ready to read Dr. David Schnarch's book the Passionate Marriage (PM). My advice is get the audio book on CD along with the book. The book will be a really hard clinical read, but after the audio CD, you will at least have a road map and summary to motivate you though the classroom homework reading. Schnarch is somewhat "kink friendly" but more importantly he views marriage as very very hard work. Your comments about marriage and compromise suggest to me that you might find PM to provide you with insights into how you can calm (self soothe) yourself in regards to jealousy and loosing your wife, how you can stretch yourself while you and your wife grow, and how you can focus on true intimacy with your wife.

I wish you and your wife the best of luck.