BTM, can I be so kind as to give you a 2x4...well, nowhere near as bad, maybe a 1x2 or a furring strip...
STOP with the negative thoughts! Honestly, I suspect it's been as hard on STBX as you. You both have a shared history, and whether she's through with it or not, somewhere inside she's hurting and feels guilt for how she's handled things. I wouldn't know her from Eve, but my guess is that she's on the Divorce Diet herself. You don't throw away 21 years together without hurting.
It really doesn't help you to think this way, it just keeps your anger at the sitch fueled. Dark or not, it's pretty apparent you haven't detached yet. Please, get the anger out, but not by thinking STBX and OM are living it up. Focus on YOU, not her.
My 2 cents (1.95 cents CAD
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
