1. Accept and respect my feelings, there is a very long story of how I got to them
2. If ways my needs could be met were pointed out, I missed it. All I heard is that what I wanted was wrong.
Again, the issue is simply making things easy on my D if the worst were to happen and not make her have to sift through a mess from 1000 miles away. The outcome would be the same, but according to our sources, it would just be more difficult to settle if she is not his legal daughter. Plus, if he regards her as his daughter why is it a big deal to make it legal? We have been looking for a financial advisor that we are comfortable with for a while on and off. This summer I have some time to get serious about finding one. I will get some more legal advise on this. You may be correct about the legal mater, 25, but surely you would agree that in general it makes more sense for one to listen to professionals they have consulted with expertise on the laws of their particular state than to listen to someone one doesn't know on a website. I do have some life insurance. I will reread suggestions made to me here and try to find some concrete suggestions for addressing my need and feelings which have a little to do with materially providing for my D and GD but have a whole lot more to do with commitment and participating in family.
I have initiated a little father's day project or it may turn into a birthday project that will knock my H's socks off.
I will take you at your word that you are trying to be helpful but I don't need any 2 by 4s.
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
