You sound much better today! Glad you're up and about.
Let's go right to this:
Quote: Sunday afternoon I called him and just said how about making some plans for today, would he like to come out to the house? No....too many trips(agreed) I asked how about me coming down there? Well, he wants to work out and do laundry"...okay, how about I come down and we can go to church down there for 5, I'll make us dinner and we can watch the game on later at 8. I could stay and go to work in the morning from there? He said:.."good, sounds like a plan"..... So, that's what I did...I was a little late...(I left his b-day card on the table and went back for it!)...
If this were my conversation with Mr. Wonderful, it would backfire on me completely. This approach would incite the passive-aggressive button and he would have canceled all thoughts of plans with me (after congenially agreeing to all of them).
Perhaps this might be seen by Dr. K. as pursuit or being attached to an outcome?
Glad it worked out well, though.
So what can we do to give you a mental trigger to avoid asking questions where the answers might be perceived as rejection by you?
Hugs and TTYL,
Betsey
p.s. Don't spend another minute worrying about the single image Dr. K. might be projecting or allowing as a misconception. He probably gets a thrill out of the attention. You just make sure he only wants to buy from your store!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
