25 I guess I didnt see it as forcing her to confront me. That makes sense. I am really working on the mopeing thing. I have even made plans with a friend at work for the following weekend. Just so I am not hanging around staring at the walls wishing my life was better.
And do stuff that makes you laugh. See a live comedian or rent some comedies...whatever...
Have FUN...it's healthy.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Last night was a decent night......no hiccups, no bumps in the road. Of course I gave her tons of space. Took the kids to the libary and the W wanted to tag along, so was nice. We all had dinner together, and Ice cream cones. W wasnt feeling well so I told her to lay down and I would take care of the house and kids. We watched movies, read books,played outside some...etc. Emailed the W to see how she was feeling, told me she felt better but she wouldnt be able to email much today because she was going to be super busy. I told her sorry to hear that and I wouldnt bug her today.....( I know she didnt have to add this but I appreciate it because I get super needy when she doesnt answer emails, texts and the like). So my anxiety level is kind of low today and I am thankful for that. I dont want to bug her in the least.
( I know she didnt have to add this but I appreciate it because I get super needy when she doesnt answer emails, texts and the like). So my anxiety level is kind of low today and I am thankful for that. I dont want to bug her in the least.
I know you know this, but you need to figure out a way to deal with this without having your W reassure you.
I think with all the technology we have we want instant feedback for our actions texts, emails, etc. You can't expect your W to calm your fears all the time because I'm sure there will be times when she can't. you have to figure this out.
for me I always tried the Occam's razor approach - basically you should tend towards simpler explanations for your W's actions unless you have more info to prove otherwise.
it takes a little mental work. I have done a lot of work on this. I'm not 100%, but I'm a lot better.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
Good tip Harrier, will practice this. Right now just working on controlling the anxiety. However, using this approach might actually help with everything else.
There's nothing good or useful about it. It's all bad.
Do you get that?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
are you a believer? Are you on anti-anxiety meds? (I know you said prozac but what about Buspar or xanax? Or some other anti-anxiety?)
You simply must do this. I cannot stress it enough. Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
