My H has no biological children and felt so strongly that he never wanted bio children that he has a 20 year old vasectomy. I would have been delighted to have his child but with a grown one and a good career was fine not to have more children.
My daughter and grand daughter live 1000 miles away. My H's job loss and affair moved us away from them. Before that we moved for him to escape a job that wasn't going well 1000 mi in a different direction.
Lots more to the story.
I never said the lawyer/financial advisor said he must do this. According to these professionals, who live here, it would be easier for my daughter, particularly if we went down in a plane or got killed in a car crash, and particularly as she lives so far away, for her to be his legal daughter. He calls her his daughter. He has no other heirs. This was a house keeping detail that could have had some sweetness. Every now and then when we'd go up in a plane, I'd casually say "hey, let's get that done". He'd say "sure". He says and has said for years that he would be "honored to be her Dad". He also told her this last time we were there directly, then didn't have the form filled out properly. There's a lot more like this.
He just doesn't want to do it even though he says he does. So now I'm letting it go. But with it is going a whole layer of trust. Of course very little of it has to do with this specific incident, that looks so superficial and small.
I've got some very exciting work to pursue, enough of this.
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
