I read PM back in 06 (as well as 5ll and some others).

I'm not trying to be defensive here, but you're misreading this, and you're wrong. I'm not the one who has checked out, she is.

The response to a spouse who doesn't want to be pursued is to GAL and give them their space, not pursue them and tell them ILY.

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'