im still shocked that after all this time she hasnt introduced a new guy to the kids. i wonder what she will think when you meet up end up with some smart pretty woman.
Be thankful she has not. That is painful for you and the kids. At least it was for me and my daughter, 24 at the time and out of college, who had to meet OM on her mother's birthday. My daughter told me later she was devastated and proceeded to drown her disgust. Seeing that our daughter was annoyed and not having a good time my ex went over to her and said "why are you so needy?" Knowing that my then separated wife was seeing this guy I later asked my daughter if her mother had introduced her to anyone, to which my brilliant daughter replied "you mean the chain-smoking redneck?". That's my girl! That will be four years ago this fall and my duaghter is now married to her long-time beau, and she now simply states that her mom is a different person.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM