I thought the request for date changes with the kids was for personal reasons first, that's why I looked to reply in that manner. So I replied very helpfully saying I would assist for work reasons and how could I help, I got a lengthy reply with a day for next week due to work, but then a long list of other dates so she could go to parties, hen night and just dates to go out with friends, so my initial thoughts were right.
I do not have a problem helping w out for work when required and will communicate any issues regarding the kids, that's my rules whilst in the dark period, but I am reluctant to change dates just to accommodate her partying!!!!
1 of the emails yesterday started with "hope your ok?" and finished with "speak soon", strange indeed as I haven't wanted to speak to her for nearly 2 weeks, I think she is just trying to be nice so I change the dates around. 1 of my emails was very helpful and I asked if she was really fine. Got a text saying "I am fine".
Her 2 friends told her on Friday night that I was talking a lot of sense when I speak to them, knew exactly what I wanted and where I was going and that she was lucky to have a husband so switched on, apparently W's face dropped and she wanted to know what I had been talking about, but they said that was between us!. They think W was expecting me to react differently or to chase her, but said even though she had a head start emotionally she was not in a good place. Friends were also concerned over my kids (after the vodka incident, and eating) and spent some time with them whilst there, esp S12 who apparently was banished to sit on her stairs on his own for an hour whilst W wanted to talk to them and ask about me, 1 friend had to go and get him, started to cuddle him and he then wouldn't leave her side for the rest of the evening, plus the way W was shouting at the kids they were also concerned over.
W seems to be in self destruct mode IMO, esp what the kids have said and the view of her friends and what I have seen/experienced, she needs to sort herself out.
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
