Right back where I started from- stupid song

[25yearsmlc]

let go of the past.

That "friend" was incredibly cruel to send that to you. (WTH is that about?) Don't open anything from them again.


If you cannot or will not ever forgive, which requires letting go of this, then what's the point of your h trying to recon?

You know the video was taken months ago...so it IS the past...didn't happen today.

BTW, I don't understand the references to where you two grew up, or had money or didn't have money, or why his not graduating from high school is relevant...at all. Do you bring that up to him? I mean, it sounds like a grudge from the past and it's another issue that needs to be dropped or fixed...mostly dropped.



You cannot reconcile if you keep staring in the past, you have to live "from this day forward" or you won't make it.

IMO, He's probably worried and thinking, "I thought we were past that and working on our M now"...

but then you brought up something from the past that he didn't bring up but feels badly about, and you threw it in his face.

See, If he has to fear that you will hold it over his head the rest of his life, or throw it in his face every time you are reminded, then it's not going to work for either of you.

Like you, I'm human and it would have disturbed me to see that, but then again, I think I'd have been ticked off at the jerk who sent it mostly.
(Why'd they do that to HIM and YOU? If it's a "friend" of his, he needs to know...)

If you are Working on the m -it absolutely requires us letting go of our scorecards from the past.


I realize that is "not fair". So you ask yourself if you want to be right, or happy...b/c unfair things happen in marriages. Some of the m's end...


Can you forgive? (It's a process that won't happen overnight but you have to figure this out soon or it's doomed.).


If the LBSer KNOWS they cannot get past an A, or if the WAS THINKS the LBSer cannot get past it, it's doomed.



SO the LBSer has to try to drop it and the WAS has to be open to trying to earn back the trust but without fearing that a sword is hanging over his head b/c of his past actions...there's work on both sides.

Make sense? The DB books address this. Check it out.