no one is blaming her for his A...it's about what we CAN do to change things...she cannot change the past.
She cannot change what HE did. She can only focus on her own behavior and internal feelings.
And the more self righteous we get with our WASs, the faster they'll flee.
It does not help to condemn. In fact, if an LBSer cannot forgive, then the m will end up being miserable for both of them.
And if the WAS THINKS the LBSer won't forgive, the WAS won't bother trying.
If the LBSer wants a reconciliation, then The LBSer has to keep the road home, paved and smooth. (make sense?)
I'm sorry your w had an A. That really [censored]. But marriages can survive it IF both partners want it to.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
