MLCer on Fast Track to Divorce

[AloneAt35]

Flabbergasted, I just wanted to tell you how much you have touched me. I've read so many people's sitches and yours has been the most helpful to me in understanding what happened to my partner who left me less than three months ago (and now plans to marry a woman he met on the internet a few days later).

My partner said the same scary things to me: he felt numb, emotionless, and even asked if he was a sociopath. MLC is like a mental illness - one that men seem to act on most of all. If droves of women were leaving their families, you can bet it would be recognized by mental health professionals as a problem. Instead, after expressing these feelings of emptiness and worthlessness, my partner began seeing a therapist who encouraged him to 'pursue his own happiness for a change.'

It seems we both had partners/husbands who were loving and attentive almost up until the day they dropped the bomb. Like you, the hardest thing for me was my partner's sudden complete lack of concern for me after nearly twenty years of receiving frequent phone calls, check-ins, and "I love yous" several times a day. I want to express my anger over this abandonment, but I can't because I'm still DBing and not doing anything to push him further away - maybe in pure futility, and probably letting him off the hook while I'm eaten away inside.

I wanted to say that although the most recent interaction with your husband left you reeling and ready to throw in the towel, if you still want to stand for your marriage, I think the interaction could been seen as a baby step forward. I dream to get even as much acknowledgment as you got, and to me, it seems like your H poked his head out of the MLC tunnel for a brief moment, and only half-way, but then immediately retreated back in.

All could not be lost for him.