It sounds to me like you guys have trouble just in being able to talk to each other without it getting out of hand...I may be 100% wrong, so please forgive me if I am, but if that's the case, I'd encourage you to find a way to try and give the marriage counseling thing another shot. All MC's are not created equal, so to speak, and I was fortunate to find a good one. I can't say what would work for you but my experience has been that it's important to find an MC who believes in marriage and is committed to helping you communicate, identify the real problems, and find real ways to work through them together. In my case I just went on a recommendation from a trusted, wise friend and got lucky, but if I were doing it over again from scratch, I'd call several and 'interview' them a bit to see if they fit the bill.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
