Still crazy (piecing) after all these years

[25yearsmlc]

I really don't get that either. I asked before but just didn't get the answer you sent. It sounds as if you and your d have major issues you think he can/should fix, with an unecessary superficial act.


He can provide for her and granddaughter easily, without any of this and I don't believe any L or financial advisor says he must do this b/c he doesn't have to -just make a will and buy some life insurance. If there's a trust only his children can avail themselves of, then it looks kind of...materialistic don't you think? And if there's not, what's the problem?

My gut says You are forcing him to do something he does NOT want to do. If you keep insisting, even though there are other ways to provide security then I think he's going to feel manipulated and controlled....(Though tbh, your 38 y/o d seems a bit old to still have this "daddy abandoned me" problem that it's not his job to fix...imo) she needs therapy for that.

Making it some formalized adoption like what you seem to want, seems strange and false. Maybe it strikes him that way too....?? Have you asked him HOW he FEELS about it, or have you just said it's what you want?


My h and d22s R did suffer when h was gone during her last 2 years of high school. But they are working on it and it IS getting better. Mostly by time spent together, one on one sometimes. A regular lunch or dinner every month, just the two of them is helping a lot. I encourage it and really am happy to see it happening.

Father's Day is coming up. If your h has acted like a good father or step father, then what about thanking him for that? See how positive affirmations work instead of the periodic complaints...no offense.