So, I thought I would update anyone interested on my sitch while we all wait for Denver to post his update
...He's being attentive. He's being communicative. He's being warm, staring at me at odd times, smiling a lot more, lots of touches and affection and even towing the line at my no-sex rule (granted, it's only been 5 days, but that might be a record for us What's the "no sex rule" or for how long? Do you know?
He admitted that he really thought the grass would be greener, but he has realized that it is not. I told him that I don't know if I will be ready for him to move back in in October. I said that we need to let things play out and see where we stand then. I know many people want their S home by any means necessary, but I don't want the old him back. I want an improved version and I guess I am still uncertain about whether his changes can/will be sustained. There's no way of knowing, either, except to give it time. So, I guess that's where I am right now. There does seem to be an exchange of power that occurs once the WAS realizes the error of their ways. .....Sometimes, I feel like the WAW, even though he's the one who left. In hindsight, the couples who DO reconcile, have had this ^^^ exact situation happen. I totally had that experience, as did every successful reconciliation I can think of...absolutely. Good insight!! TAKE IT SLOW...OMG, THE WAY TO BLOW IT IS BY RUSHING BACK INTO THE SAME OLD...
At any rate, I am feeling fantastic. I've accomplished a lot this year and I am planning to do a lot more, including a trip to New Orleans in October for a book signing/writer's conference and I am officially going to Paris in May with my niece.
Words of encouragement are much appreciated and I will continue to keep everyone posted!
You feel fantastic for a lot of reasons. Including how empowered you are, b/c you empowered yourself.
Good for you.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
