One thing that has stood out to me since u started posting was your inner strength and clarity of thought. It does not diminish your hurt and the pain you feel but instead of sitting around soaking in misery, which is what I did, you have taken charge of your sitch and your life.
As a result your H appears to be looking in the mirror although the final product is yet to be seen.
The most important part is you recognize it.
To tell him you need time is a powerful weapon because the control is beginning to shift.
Any reconciliation based on desperate feelings is doomed to fail and that is what I see happen over and over again. In an attempt to stop the pain couples want to try again, before they have had the chance to experience growth and feel the lost.
It works as much on your timetable as it does his.
