Where is the line?

[thatgirl007]

So, I thought I would update anyone interested on my sitch while we all wait for Denver to post his update

Spoke with H at length over the last five days. I do not initiate R talks at all any more, haven't in some time. I let him lead the convo. May 1st seems to be a pivotal day for him. It was the day he opened up his own business at my place of employment. And it seems to be the day that he officially recommitted to the R. He's being attentive. He's being communicative. He's being warm, staring at me at odd times, smiling a lot more, lots of touches and affection and even towing the line at my no-sex rule (granted, it's only been 5 days, but that might be a record for us He admitted that he really thought the grass would be greener, but he has realized that it is not.

I told him that I don't know if I will be ready for him to move back in in October. I said that we need to let things play out and see where we stand then. I know many people want their S home by any means necessary, but I don't want the old him back. I want an improved version and I guess I am still uncertain about whether his changes can/will be sustained. There's no way of knowing, either, except to give it time. So, I guess that's where I am right now.

There does seem to be an exchange of power that occurs once the WAS realizes the error of their ways. in a lot of ways, I read through some of the men's threads and am reminded of my H, all of the mistakes he's made and how he's been over the last few months, as if he really is trying to work on the M. Sometimes, I feel like the WAW, even though he's the one who left.

At any rate, I am feeling fantastic. I've accomplished a lot this year and I am planning to do a lot more, including a trip to New Orleans in October for a book signing/writer's conference and I am officially going to Paris in May with my niece.

Words of encouragement are much appreciated and I will continue to keep everyone posted!