25 I'm an alpha male at work, no doubt about it. Which makes knowing how terrible the home sitch is even worse. Don't feel too comfortable dropping my branch but rest assured I know how to lead soldiers in combat and the confidence and strict adherence to standards it takes.
As for the list I need to be careful to make them goals for the two of us rather than a list of demands. If she refuses to even work on them. Then I don't think I want to stay with her. As long as my demands are not unreasonable as you said, why would I not want someone that wants to work at making me happy.
I have been asking myself why can't I be happy. Why can't I have demands and needs. Don't want to be M to someone who does not care about my needs.
As for the caveman theory I can definitely see where I have been a cave man everywhere but home. My W has demanded a meek mild mannered man without realizing that it was that crazy spark I had that drew her to me in the first place.
I have come to realize that there is a difference between a good natured man, and a submissive one. A good natured man has sensitive qualities, but does not sacrifice his edge for it.
As for the goals I am going to approach them by saying that they are important to me, and that I don't thing things would work out if we dont work them. I know she will try an excuse to change the subject, and avoid the issue but I must stay strong.
