What to do when nothing is working

[liz_palmer]

Just got back from a session with my therapist. She's our daughters therapist (daughter is bipolar) and she treats the whole family individually or together.

I took the DR book with me and asked her to read it and assist me on the path that the book talks about. She was totally open to it and as I explained what had occured over the last 5 weeks since he decided there was no hope for our relationship.

She gave me some ideas for when he drops little 'bomb's such as "you're not the only one who likes green" or "we've got to stop doing this". She told me to stop ignoring his comments and to make him own the statements by asking, "oh, who else likes green?" or "stop doing what?" She said that he's 'feeling me out' when he drops those bombs and is testing the waters so to speak. She's met him so she knows he's a poor verbal communicator and says he expects me to read his mind and get mad when I guess wrong. So I should question his comments to force (for lack of a better word) him to communicate his meaning.

Thoughts?
Liz