Hi Maganna,
It's not for you to navigate IMHO. You can't change his attitude.
We all have to learn to own our feelings, we all have to learn to name them, acknowledge them, feel them but NOT let them drive our actions.
Your husband's feelings are his, you did not MAKE him feel that way. Either he mans up and pulls up his socks or he will not. That's not in your control.

What is in your control is what you CHOOSE to do about it, and what consequences your H is willing to pay for not doing anything.

BITS
Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.