All Thanks for your input and advice. While I don't have a set list of goals yet, I do have a general idea of what I want. Things like being respected, and feeling loved, and secure in the relationship are paramount. I've also noticed that since I put my foot down she's been trying to act like there are no issues in the M. Technically she has avoided telling me if she is willing to respect the boundary I set, and said about 5 days ago that she needed to think.
This is starting to drive me nuts and would like to know if I should do something about it.
I was thinking of taking some time to compile my list, and share it with her. I would then ask her to make one for me. I don't know I think this would be a good way to get things out in the open without being confrontational. What do you guys think.
I think you're still walking on eggshells, which is what got you into this mess to begin with, GB.
How about simply asking her "What are your intentions regarding this marriage? I'd like to know your thoughts." ?
Starsky
P.S. If she dodges with ANY sort of an "I still don't know," then you need to let her know that anything other than a "I'm willing to commit to working on this marriage, monogamously" will be taken by you as a "No," and that YOU then have some decisions to make now.
